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I know a married couple for whom this is both their second marriage. They have been married for six years and have not had one argument. When I asked them their secret they say, "Marry someone whose ex-spouse was so awful that the worst thing you do, doesn't even register on the radar screen."
They did admit that they have disagreements, but just before it is about to escalate into an argument, they each get flashbacks of the tongue lashing (and worse, abuse) they so often received from their former spouses. When I asked them how they were so lucky to find each other. They replied almost simultaneously, with a chuckle, "Seek out people who are much easier to please than then are to upset (a.k.a. "low maintenance") and just say 'No' to the ones who are easier to upset than they are to please (a.k.a. "high maintenance").
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