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Extra Pounds Make him Sexually
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How do I get him to Lose Weight?


Dear Dr. Mark:

I have been married for 7 1/2 years. When I first meet my husband he was in good physical shape and sexually appealing. He is 6'4. After we married he started to gain weight. He went from 230 to 255. He is 29 and I am 32.


What do you do when your spouse's weight causes you to lose interest in him or her sexually?


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I have been blessed with a great metabolism, so working out has not been a priority; I am 5'1 105 lbs. I recently started working out for the health benefits and to stay in shape. I have tried to encourage my husband to do the same but he shows no desire to do this and our sex life has suffered for the past 6 years because of my lack of desire for his body. I have been 'gently' honest with him but I know that people do not loose weight until they are ready. I am starting to get very angry at the situation because I don't think that a man in his 20's should look like an overweight man. He carries it all in his stomach, even though he is tall, he has a large belly.

I have tried not to be selfish but I am completely turned off. I have been dealing with this for over 6 years and for the past 2 years we have been having financial problems due to him starting his own business and I have recently taken a job that has required me to be away from home all week.
 

All of these situations have built up and I feel so upset, disgusted and angry with him. I think intimacy is what our marriage needs but how can I get him to be sexually attractive without hurting his feelings? I'm tired of waiting for him to do it himself but my marriage is slipping away. I can deal with the poor finances, etc. but I really need him to be sexually attractive for me. I think people use marriage as an excuse to be lazy about their appearances. People should try to stay sexy and attractive all of their lives for the health benefits alone. His eating and body habits are pushing me farther away. Any advice on how to get someone motivated without damaging their feelings?

Unhappy:  F( 32 )
Minneapolis, MN
Married 7 1/2 years
 

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