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As more of the facts behind the Eliot Spitzer
scandal come to the fore, it may be clear that once again grandiose,
narcissistic men come to believe that they live by different rules
than others. It may also be clear that men who possess a great drive
to succeed not infrequently have that drive cross over into a sex
drive that doesn't seem to be satisfied within a mundane typical
marriage.
On the other hand, even non narcissistic men are not immune to
discovering that sex is a great way to relieve tension.
Men in fact did not ask that sex for sex sake
would be such a great tension reliever. It just is. (And as women
are becoming more competitive and aggressive in the world, they are
not far behind in discovering it). But if a guy is married to a
woman who demands and deserves to be treated with respect who would
not take too kindly to serving as a vehicle for purely carnal sexual
relief, and is someone he respects, he can sometimes have problems
covering up his desire to sometimes just use her (and in his mind
not very respectfully) for a release rather than to make love.
So… if a man has a large uncontrollable sex
drive, feels it is the only way to relieve tension and he has a wife
who either has less of a sex drive, would be turned off to having
sex the "imaginative" way he would like to and talking about the
problem only makes it worse (as he can come off as whining,
complaining or sullen and not much of a turn on), what should that
man do?
a) hire a prostitute and be sleazy
b) have an affair and be a cheat
c) service himself by masturbating to pornography downstairs in
the den and feel pathetic
d) suggest going to a marital/couples therapist (which is too
embarrassing for most couples, especially if the man is going to
bring up his "uncontrollable" sex drive)
e) sublimate his drive to buying and washing a sports car
f) put a rubber sheet on his bed and hope it all gets worked out
in his dreams
g) other -------
Also See:
My Partner Cheat? Never!
29 Red Flags That May Suggest a Cheater
Marriage
on its knees
(c) 2008 Mark Goulston
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