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MARRIAGE: Take 2
with Dr. Susan K Perry
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Loving
in Flow
by Susan K Perry |
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is about having someone you can count on
to love you no matter how the moods of the day happen to
fall. It shows how couples can exist in a unique "zone,"
when the bond between you feels timeless and irreplaceable.
The best relationship is having someone with whom to
transcend aloneness in a random chaotic universe, and
Loving in Flow proves that real couples with real flaws
and inadequacies can indeed find this level of exceptional
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Loving in Flow is based
on in-depth interviews with more than three dozen long term couples
who rate their relationships as absolutely top-of-the-line. The
book is filled with insights and practical suggestions about
navigating the transitions and crises of a relationship.
Loving in Flow differs
from other relationship books: they're often based on academic
studies of college undergrads, or they're written by therapists
about the troubled couples who have come to them, without always
knowing what actually worked. As a social psychologist in the field
of positive psychology, I've studied and written here about what
works. Loving in Flow isn't a structured program with a
set number of rules, but is grounded in gritty and often amusing
reality.
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A sample of what you'll find in
Loving in
Flow:
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Why it's best to expose your true
self quickly ("Putting Your Best Knee Forward")
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Why those early "highs" level off so
quickly -- and what you can do about it
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Why you need good illusions
about one another, but why some kinds of illusions are deadly to
lasting love
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How to stop the conflict -- 20
detailed and anecdotal explanations of techniques that work for
real people
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Why assuming good will is always
the best stance
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Exercises and rituals that really
work to get couples through the toughest fights
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How to recognize "subtle abuse"
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Different conversational styles that
get in the way of understanding and compassion
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Why listening is so important and so
hard, and how to do it well
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A rare discussion of "what words
mean"
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How do you drive me crazy? Let me
count the ways -- a chapter devoted to how to get along with
your partner's maddening habits
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Beyond the chore wars -- and why
it's important to talk about your differing perceptions about
who does more
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How to keep your sexual relationship
vibrant
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Crises of all kinds -- from kids to
illness to affairs -- and how to rebound
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Why fairness is crucial and why
"communal thinking" is far better than tit-for-tat.
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Why always "giving away the ice
cream" is best
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How the happiest couples play
together
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How to use rituals and novelty to
find flow and keep the delight alive
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With wit, intelligence and gut-wrenching honesty,
Perry reminds us that the path to real love is often rocky but that
the destination is perhaps the most glorious one we can achieve in
life.”
—
Robert Epstein, Ph.D., Editor
in Chief, Psychology Today
“A work of lasting value on a topic of timeless
relevance. Perry explores the complex nuances of and challenges to
achieving intimacy through an in-depth exploration of the
experiences of real people. Their stories stick with you and
resonate in your mind and heart. This book [is] an enlightening and
inspirational touchstone.”
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Jeremy P. Hunter, Ph.D., Research Director,
The Quality of Life Research Center, Peter F. Drucker School
of Management, Clarement Graduate University
“This is a remarkable book – a wonderful mix of
pointers, anecdotes, suggestions, reassurances, and hints on how to
develop and sustain a wonderful relationship. Susan Perry uses
interviews with successful couples, her own (sometimes painful)
experience, psychological research, expert advice, and a large
dollop of humor to guide you along the ins and outs (and dos and
don’ts) of how to make love work. Highly recommended to anyone in
love who wants to stay there, or anyone not in love who wants to get
there.”
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James C. Kaufman, Ph.D., Director, Learning Research Institute,
California State University at San Bernardino
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Susan's Web
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About Susan
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Download these Resources Today! |
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1000
Questions
for Couples What you absolutely
must know about your relationship - test your compatibility
and grow deeper in love. |
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Keep Your Marriage
What To Do When Your Spouse Says: I
Don't Love You Anymore!
Keep Your Spouse From Bolting & Buy Time To
Improve Your Marriage.
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The Anatomy
Of An Affair
Do You
Suspect that Your Spouse is Cheating? Discover the
REAL REASONS WHY PEOPLE HAVE AFFAIRS. It's NOT what
you think!
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500 Lovemaking
Tips & Secrets
More Passion &
Intimacy with Great Sex from Oprah Romance Expert - selling like
wildfire. Tips will drive your man or woman wild. |
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The Virtuoso Lover -
Teaching Men How To Be Masterful
Lovers.The Ultimate Lovemaking Manual For Men
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