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Dating:
How do I meet Someone
if I'm Over 30?
Over the next couple of months, Couples Company is going to look
at how people over thirty meet someone and begin dating.
Unlike college, finding other singles that are healthy mentally
and relationship material requires some effort. This issue
we are looking at Dating Clubs and Seminar Groups.
If
you are over 30, meeting other people can be pretty difficult,
especially if you are looking for dating material. The Top
three methods over thirty singles use to find Mr. or Mrs. Right
today are:
1. The Internet
2. Friends & Family
3. Work & Work
Related Functions
And
the fourth method gaining in popularity is Single's Clubs.
These can range from impromptu groups like Beverly Hill's
Bachelor and Spinster club, a group of thirty-something
professionals that throw parties together and club hop as a
group to organizations built around common experiences like the
Ivy League Singles. Some have specific requirements and
are not always exclusive to singles like the Skyliners where men
must be 6'2" and women at least 5'10" to join. Most major
churches have singles groups and checking with your Alumni
Association usually can put you in touch with others in
singlehood.
Another option is groups like Seminars for Singles that mix
socializing and improving relationship skills together.
This is the best option for those coming off a divorce or
difficult breakup because you're surrounded by others dealing
with similar issues, and they are not dwelling on them. People
join relationship skills groups because they don't want to make
the same mistake twice and they want to meet others whom put
their relationship first. Unlike some of the other singles
groups not using education, the majority are not looking for a
fling. Both men and women are focused on finding and
creating solid relationships. Most major cities have
groups like Seminar for
Singles, which is located in Los Angeles.
There are a variety of reasons adults are afraid to try singles
groups, whether it be stigma, believing that only ugly people or
losers join. This is hardly the case. So what does
prevent people like you from trying this options? We asked
the Seminars for Singles group to give us the top ten reasons
they had prior to joining that postponed their relationship life
longer than needed.
TOP
The Top 10 Reasons Singles Don’t
Enjoy Singles' Events
List Developed by "Seminars For Singles,"
1. A belief that it’s hard to meet people (usually coupled with
– not knowing what to say).
2. Always hoping to meet "The One" (and then they don’t).
3. Shyness or the fear of approaching someone and then feeling
incompetent, rejected or publicly humiliated.
4. Staying in your comfort zone – and acting unapproachable.
5. Fear of not being able to get away from someone whose boring,
self-centered or pushy.
6. Taking it too seriously instead of just enjoying the event as
much as possible.
7. Carrying baggage, a negative self image or negative attitude
(i.e., "These people don’t want to meet me!")
8. Lack of social skills and no effort to grow or gain social
skills.
9. The event itself doesn’t work – too loud, too many people,
poor lighting or bad food.
10. Finally, a failure to show up! You can’t enjoy singles
events if your not ever going to singles events!
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