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 I thoroughly enjoyed reading your 8 stages of love. I would like to read it again when I have more time. Just wanted to comment on the 8th stage of unconditional love. #2 i.e., about a person "killing you, etc." if the person killed me.. then there is no love. Besides, relationships would no longer be a problem in life nor would anything else when dead. Just food for thought. I love your website!!!
Peace, G (F)
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 I enjoyed reading all of your stages of intimacy until I reached stage 8. As a graduate of Social Welfare at Berkeley and a MFT candidate in graduate school, I disagree with some of your statements. A. Social workers dread this mistake made by so many parents who are suppose to protect their children. Many women or men stand by their partners who have physically & mentally abused, burned, or tormented their children. A lot of abuse goes unreported because ignorant people want to stand by their loved one. When abuse is reported where social workers step in, it is sometimes too late. You have to understand that these kids grow up never forgetting or trusting people. It is all right to forgive someone who has hurt your children, but you have to move on. It is important to keep in mind, children depend on a parent or guardian to protect them at all costs and sacrifices. If that sacrifice happens to be being without a partner until you find a lucrative, safe, and healthy intimate relationship, then sacrifice! B. If you stand by someone who has killed your loved one but has never suffered from schizophrenia, bi-polar disease or any other mental illness where they thought your loved one was the boogie-man, then YOU need to admit yourself to a mental institution. C. Whether a stranger or a loved one robs you and destroys everything you have, it IS a crime, and one must pay for their actions. Material items can be replaced, but having fear and mistrust takes time. It is an invasion of privacy. People save up for their children's future college expenses, home repairs, etc. A loved one is suppose to support your dreams, not try to destroy them. D. You probably could stand by your loved one if they became a terrorist or spy against your country, but the CIA would probably question you why. I hope you have a good answer for them. If you do not like the country that you live in or the political system they support, then it is better to leave, than to put loved ones around you at risk. IF the government thinks you are involved, it does not matter if you were not involved. You probably just threw some ideas out there, but most people do not question what is in print. Fortunately, we give thanks to God, Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha, and whomever teaches us that you have to question what is wrong, right, smart, safe and conducive for all mankind. RM, (34) F |
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