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Likewise, having shared activities is one of the
most wonderful things about
being a couple. It means you almost always have someone to share
activities with.
The objective of recreational intimacy is to find enough in
common with the other person that you will enjoy your time together. This can be
current activities or things you'd like to try.
You
& your partner enjoy recreational intimacy if you both can
answer Yes to all of these situations:
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You both enjoy spending time together and it really
doesn't matter what you do.
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You can name your partner's favorite sports, movies and
leisure activities.
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You both have activities you enjoy together and those you
reserve for yourself and your friends.
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You do not get upset if your partner spends occasional
time without you pursuing his/her own interests.
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You enjoy exploring new experiences with your partner.
Below are key questions to ask yourself about
your partner. If you can answer all of these by knowing
your partners responses, it means you've explored and
established recreational intimacy. These are also great questions for parties and
gatherings. People love to speak about what they are
passionate about. Activities associated with recreational
intimacy are often the very activities that a person loves and
lives to do.
Questions
To Establish Recreational Intimacy
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What is the most extreme activity you have
ever participated in?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Tells you how
much of a risk taker he or she is and whether you are compatible in this area of risk
tolerance.
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What is your fondest memory from childhood of
your father?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Clues you
into his/her relationship with his/her father and what activities hold a special sentiment
for him/her.
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Do you have any hobbies? What are they?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Helps you
identify if he or she has interests outside of work or if work is his/her primary means of
fulfillment.
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What would you like to do that you
haven’t done yet?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Helps you
understand if his/her dreams and goals are compatible with yours.
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If you won the lottery
tonight, what is the first fun activity you would do?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Helps you
understand if his/her dreams and goals are compatible with yours.
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Who is your favorite
athlete and why?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Identifies the type of
spectator sports he/she enjoys but also gives you an insight
into Stage 4, Intellectual Intimacy and what characteristics
he/she admires.
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