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1. Whisper sexy words to your lover.
When a move he makes, the way he kisses you, how fast or slow he's going, makes you feel good, tell him. Whisper, "You feel so good inside me," or "Moving like that drives me craaazzzy!" when his rhythm starts to send you over the edge, or "Your tongue rules!" when he reaches the right spot. If he's thrusting too soft, don't hesitate to throw out a "Harder! Harder!" Guide him with your words: "Your tongue feels great, ummm, good, right there!"
2. Learn to have fun with sex toys .
Keep your titillating playthings in a sex tool box beside the bed; super soft, sensual, and slippery lubricants, a silk blindfold, fuzzy handcuffs, various vibrators, incense, scented candles and your favorite make-out music CD. Your voice is also a versatile sex toy. It can seduce, soothe, control and keep your partner excited all the way to orgasm.
3. Surprise her with her favorite flowers on the nightstand.
Set the scene for sex.
4. Have an erotic escapade.
Enjoy sex under a blanket in the park.
5. Play "Doctor."
Give her a complete and thorough examination. Be gentle. Quietly unzip your pants to reveal a sexual prescription tied to the end of your penis. Fill the prescription.
6. Go shopping together at Victoria's Secret or Frederick's of Hollywood with the intention of purchasing some see-through nightgowns or skimpy lingerie to model tonight.
7. Have a quickie on a stairwell or rooftop.
8. Make a House Call: On the way home from the office, call your lover on your cellular phone, talk sexy and let them know you will be "on call" to make love by the time you arrive.
9. Be a Breast Man
Idea for the guys! Some women can climax solely from breast arousal. Breasts are loaded with sensory nerves that can activate instantly. Moisten a finger with saliva or sexy secretion and apply around her nipples. Gently and lovingly massage with a slow hand. Lift her breasts to your mouth and gently blow. Your goal: spend no less than 20 minutes lavishing love to her bosom with your fingers and your mouth.
10. Video Voyeur
For some high-tech hanky panky, make a XXX video with a video cam corder on a tripod. Dim the lights. Put on your favorite music and be adventurous. Act out all of your cinematic fantasies. Perform. Be playful. Demonstrate your exhibitionism. Don't be shy.
11. Have oral sex on a stairwell.
Pop a couple of Altoid® mints and let them dissolve in your mouth as you do the deed. The tingle your tongue feels will also light his/her fire. The excitement of getting caught is half the fun.
12. Innovate
Be consistent in introducing new and exciting sexploits in and out of the bedroom. They will help you to connect before or while you are making love. They don't all have to be about sex. It's about "being" together. Give a foot massage or back rub. Be creative. Shower together. Begin slowly and move to more erotic endearments. Read good sex books for ideas or try some of the ideas in this article.
13. Call in sick and spend the whole day together in bed.
Make your lovemaking electric. Take your time to light the fire. Introduce some erotic variety. Do something unpredictable, spontaneous, and different. When you do something completely out of character, your heart beats faster and your adrenaline flows. Make some sexy memories.
14. Leave an erotic message on your lover's answering machine.
Let him/her know you are willing to unleash your wild and crazy tongue. Or that you will be a clean machine and you are looking forward to having him bury his face in your secret place. If you're open for a quickie, say so. If you'd like it doggie-style, say so. Let him know you are hot and bothered and willing.
15. Be the booty!
Leave a trail of lit candles, clothing, and sexy notes, each leading to the other, beginning where you expect your love partner to enter the house. Be available and "obviously" ready - in your sexiest lingerie - to make love when the last note is read!
16. Masturbate your partner in broad daylight, with people nearby, under the cover of a blanket.
For her: Give him a lube job so your fingers will slide effortlessly. For him: Make sure she is wet enough to be wild. Pump up the erotic energy and allow your partner to experience the big "O."
17. Make love in the back seat of your car in the garage.
Have forbidden, illicit, wild sex. Pretend you don't know each other. Lightly smack his tush with each thrust. Whisper dirty talk in her ear.
18. Love Letters
If your husband will be gone for several days on business, write a steamy note telling him ten things you would love to do to him right at that moment and put it in his briefcase. Include a pair of your most sexy panties. Have phone sex with him.
19. Have sex in the flatbed of a pickup parked on the top floor of a parking garage.
Bring a stack of soft blankets. Begin with some sexy "dry-humping" (with your clothes on). Then slowly undress each other, one piece of clothing at a time, taking turns. Become a sexual gourmet. Sample a little bit of everything.
20. It doesn't hurt to sexually flirt with your partner!
It adds excitement! Flirting sends natural amphetamines and endorphins surging through the body, stimulating an instant emotional "high" not unlike orgasm.
21. Be brave.
Masturbate and let your partner watch. This takes a lot of trust. You will experience vulnerability. However, being open about it expands sexual enjoyment between lovers. You will both find it an erotic turn-on. Ask him to lick your fingers while you're masturbating yourself. Dab some of your own juices - as you would your own perfume - behind your ears, at your throat and between your breasts. The natural scent of clean genitals are an attractant; an incredible aphrodisiac. Let him know you are "in heat." Allowing your partner to watch
can help your partner understand more about pleasuring you. Invite him to perform some fancy tricks with his tongue.
22. Play "Nurse."
Alter your appearance to fit the part. Let him know you have the cure. Lift your short little dress and (if so inclined) let him watch you shave yourself or begin to gently stroke your clitoris. Unexpectedly unzip his pants and give him a more-than-routine examination of his manhood. Love him tender. Bend over to fetch a sex toy from your nurses kit and let him see that you are wearing open-crotch panties. Give him an extended view of your derriere. Instruct him to lay on the gurney (table). Climb on top and begin to apply the cure
while you simultaneously masturbate as he watches.
23. Visit your love partner at his office.
Lock the door and let him discover you have nothing on underneath your dress. Frolic on his desk or on the floor.
24. Take a shower together.
Have fun lathering each other up. Slowly wash every part of your lover's body, perhaps lingering where you know it feels good.
25. Take a scene out of True Lies
Allow him the pleasure of watching you slowly and deliberately undress while he sips a cool glass of his favorite wine in a comfortable viewing chair.
Copyright © 2004 - Larry James. Adapted from the book,
"Red Hot Lovenotes for Lovers: The Importance of Great Sexual Communication and Other Essentials for Extraordinary Hot Sex!."
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