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We tend to put our best foot forward during the courting
ritual, doing our utmost to impress our dates. We try to be
polite, courteous, caring, giving, sensitive, well groomed and
well mannered. Then we get married (or engaged or move in
together) and revert back to our old, self-centered, slovenly
tendencies.
If you feel that your relationship may have lost some of its
"spark," ask yourself if you are acting the same way as when
you went out on those first few dates.
Can you imagine how different our relationships would be if we
always behaved as though we were still wooing our significant
other? We would belch, complain, argue, curse, whine and nag
much less. We would bathe, smile, caress, encourage, give,
clean and communicate much more.
If you desire to keep that newlywed spark, you should never
stop dating and courting the one you love, even after you
exchange your vows.
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TABLE FOR TWO: Making your Dinner Date a Date to Remember
For some people, the most romantic thing they do is taking
someone out to dinner. That is a kind gesture; especially if
the person you are taking out does most of the cooking and
washing up afterwards.
I don't consider eating an ordinary meal at your average
restaurant particularly romantic. Just because you take
someone to a fancy or expensive restaurant, that doesn't make
it romantic either. However, I do believe that dining at a
restaurant (even your average chain variety) can be truly
romantic with a little advanced preparation.
What makes dining out romantic are the elements of surprise,
atmosphere and thoughtfulness. Below are some suggestions on
how to make your next dining experience really romantic.
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Bring flowers to the restaurant in advance and have waiter
deliver them after dessert.
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Arrange to have the musicians play "our song."
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Pretend to go to the restroom and give the waiter some jewelry
or other present to be hidden in the dinner rolls.
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Go to the restaurant where you went on your first date (or
proposed to her).
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Have the host slip a special note or card in the menu.
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Work with the chef in advance to prepare her favorite dishes
(not all restaurants will do this).
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Create a fake menu that includes made-up dishes that have some
sort of inside meaning or funny story.
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Arrange to have the waiter bring a small gift or card with
every course.
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